When a friend hurts us, we should write it down in the sand

Two friends were walking through the desert. In a specific point of the journey, they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one, who got slapped, was hurt, but without anything to say, he wrote in the sand: “TODAY, MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE”.

They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who got slapped and hurt started drowning, and the other friend saved him. When he recovered from the fright, he wrote on a stone: “TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE”.

The friend who saved and slapped his best friend, asked him, “Why, after I hurt you, you wrote in the sand, and now you write on a stone?”

The other friend, smiling, replied: “When a friend hurts us, we should write it down in the sand, where the winds of forgiveness get in charge of erasing it away, and when something great happens, we should engrave it in the stone of the memory of the heart, where no wind can erase it”

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The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are.

This is a great reflective poem , it goes ..”The good you find in others, is in you too. The faults you find in others, are your faults as well. After all, to recognize something you must know it.The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well. The beauty you see around you, is your beauty.

The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are. To change your world, you must change yourself. To blame and complain will only make matters worse. Whatever you care about, is your responsibility.

What you see in others, shows you yourself. See the best in others, and you will be your best.  Give to others, and you give to yourself. Appreciate beauty, and you will be beautiful. Admire creativity, and you will be creative. Love, and you will be loved. Seek to understand, and you will be understood.

Listen, and your voice will be heard. Teach, and you will learn. Show your best face to the mirror,  and you’ll be happy with the face looking back at you~

 

 

Source: http://positive-thoughts.typepad.com/positive-thoughts

“Happiness When Shared, is Doubled”

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats.. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.

He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.’

My dear friend…

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.

‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present .’

What have you done to make someone happy recently? Did it bring the same joy to you? What can you do today to make others happy? ♥

~ Author Unknown

Via “gr8quotes”

Resist the urge to react

If someone has boundless negative energy that ends up affecting your happiness try not to react, its easy to react and usually is what they aim for, do nothing, say nothing, make yourself invisible. Resist the urge to react. Dig deeper and stay out of the hole. Surround yourself with the people who really know you and have earned their place in your heart and protect the positive space around you.

Negative people often gravitate toward others who react strongly–people who easily offer compassionate or get outraged, or offended. I suspect this gives them a little light in the darkness of their inner world….a sense that they’re not floating alone in their own anger or sadness.

People remember and learn from what you do more than what you say. If you feed into the situation with emotions, you’ll teach them they can depend on you for a reaction. It’s tough not to react because we’re human, but it’s worth practicing.

I’ve learned you can’t always save the world. But you can make the world a better place by working on yourself–by becoming self-aware, tapping into your compassion, and protecting your positive space. You may even help negative people by fostering a sense of peace within yourself that their negativity can’t pierce. (Tiny Budda)

Via This TOO Shall Pass

Gratitude

Gratitude or the art of being thankful should be part of our daily lives, not just something that is reserved for special occasions. When we have gratitude for everything in our lives on a daily basis, our mindset changes, our attitude changes, we become focused on the things that matter most but most of all, we open ourselves up for better things.

Being grateful is the key between those who have and have not. Sure we all have goals and dreams and things that we aspire to have. But if you can’t be grateful for things that you have, how will you ever acquire more things in your life? Being thankful puts things in perspective. The more grateful you are, the more your life will be blessed.

So are you ready to learn the art of being thankful? Some of the best philosophic and inspirational people of our times have taught us what gratitude is and how gratitude can enrich our lives. Their quotes are meant to be used as a guide to personal success and happiness. Don’t just read these quotes but rather internalize them, believe them, have faith in them…. your future depends on it.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, and confusion into clarity…. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melodie Beattie

 “To receive more you must first be thankful for what you already have. Thanksgiving opens the doors for good ideas to flow, while cynicism blocks the door of good ideas.” – Jim Rohn

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” –Brian Tracy

 

 

You Are Who You Are, Not What You Do

Becoming Your Wrong Decisions

We are not our decisions and no decision is wrong because we made the choice with the information at hand.

Our perception of the traits and characteristics that make us who we are is often tightly intertwined with how we live our life. We define ourselves in terms of the roles we adopt, our actions and inactions, our triumphs, and what we think are failures. As a result it is easy to identify so strongly with a decision that has resulted in unexpected negative consequences that we actually become that “wrong” decision. The disappointment and shame we feel when we make what we perceive as a mistake grows until it becomes a dominant part of our identities. We rationalize our “poor” decisions by labeling ourselves incompetent decision-makers. However, your true identity cannot be defined by your choices. Your essence—what makes you a unique entity—exists independently of your decision-making process.

There are no true right or wrong decisions. All decisions contribute to your development and are an integral part of your evolving existence yet they are still separate from the self. A decision that does not result in its intended outcome is in no way an illustration of character. Still, it can have dire effects on our ability to trust ourselves and our self-esteem. You can avoid becoming your decisions by affirming that a “bad decision” was just an experience, and next time you can choose differently. Try to avoid lingering in the past and mulling over the circumstances that led to your perceived error in judgment. Instead, adapt to the new circumstances you must face by considering how you can use your intelligence, inner strength, and intuition to aid you in moving forward more mindfully. Try not to entirely avoid thinking about the choices you have made, but reflect on the consequences of your decision from a rational rather than an emotional standpoint. Strive to under! stand why you made the choice you did, forgive yourself, and then move forward.

A perceived mistake becomes a valuable learning experience and is, in essence, a gift to learn and grow from. You are not a bad person and you are not your decisions; you are simply human.

Via Beyond The Veil where the Angels Ascend

I declare richness and fullness for my life…

I declare richness and fullness for my life…I now choose to move away from the limiting beliefs that have been denying me the benefits I so desire.

I declare that every negative thought pattern in my consciousness is now being cleared out, erased, and let go.

 

My consciouness is now being filled with cheerful, positive, loving thought patterns that contribute to my health, wealth, and loving relationships.

 

I now release all negative thought patterns that have contributed to fear of loss, fear of the dark, fear or being harmed, fear of poverty, pain, loneliness, self-abuse of any kind, feeling not good enough, burdens or losses of any sort, and any other nonsense that may be lingering in some dark corner of my consciousness.

 

I am now free to allow and accept the good to manifest in my life.

 

I now declare for myself the richness and fullness of life in all its profuse abundance; love lavishly flowing, prosperity abounding, health vital and vibrant, creativity ever new and fresh, and peace all surrounding. All this I deserve and am now willing to accept and have on a permanent basis.

 

I am a co-creator with the One Infinite Allness of Life and therefore the totality of possibilities lie before me and I rejoice that this is so. And so it is!Louise L Hay